When You are in a None-Divine 9 Sorority!

Over the years, I have learned to respect Greek life and all that it represents. Black women's cultural identity is more complex than people realize. It's healthy for black women of different cultural experiences to understand each other's perspective. That being said, this blog is about my personal thoughts about sister's in none-divine-9 sororities. And my personal perspective is probably based on stereotypes, correct me if I'm wrong.

My first thought is congratulations on making it into a group of girls that don't compromise on image. Sororities get a bad rap for being superficial, when really, the ultimate goal is personal excellence. I can only imagine that it's difficult when rushing up against a beauty standard that is almost impossible for someone with, big butt, hips, a diabetic gene and kinky hair. Let's get specific, even if you are skinny, that Princess Polly dress may flair out a little more than it should, making you look more like a video vixen, than someone's "little".

No one understands how secretly frustrating this is. But for their own reason's your sister's need you, and you definitely need them. They need you as a neutral support system as they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.[and a designated driver] You need them to hide from your own blackness as you try to get a grip on your identity. This includes the slave mentality your middle-class parents are still carrying in their DNA.

What I respect about Greek life is the opportunity to rise above it all and become that "it girl" in someone's sphere of influence. How does a sister do it?

Because a lot of black women, have diabetic genes, binging and starving is not going to work. A sister has to eat (no dieting whatsoever) and exercise (hard). You are under the same pressure but you have to deal with things differently. When you are going out with your sorority sisters, you have to eat a huge-breakfast ahead of time, even if means getting up early. This way, when everyone is just eating 50 calories or less, and giving out hints about how big "some of us" hips are, you won't feel like you are going faint, or hurt somebody. Or offend somebody by ordering the extra-large portion.

Perfect your hair. Your sorority sisters can only throw their hands up because they don't know where to begin with black hair. But they want you to be happy and feel beautiful. Some, black girls who didn't grow up around a lot of other black women, have parents who didn't bother raising them with a healthy identity about their hair. Swimming was always a freak-show. And hair was the one thing that kept you single. You MUST use products made for black hair. And use them properly.

You have to change your concept about it. If you have to wear a headscarf at night or use a shower cap in order to reach your goals, make sure they are in your sorority colors. This will definitely help your sorority sister's feel more comfortable. And it can be cute.

The pdf file below will prove to be a helpful start on your hair journey.

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When you get yourself together and your are "meeting the standard." It's then time to "know your place." This is in respect to relationships. I know that you had a maybe not 100% secret crush on the most popular guy in the Greek world, but...that might not work. You have achieved status and what you bring to the table represents something.

If you date someone bougie, make sure he gets a job at a bank, and don't let his family and social circle break you down.

If you are a black girl in a none divine-9 sorority, then trapping is an opportunity. This is definitely for risk takers and you will need some return support from your sorority sisters. If the only way to ease your conscious is to rush someone into getting a regular job...then trapping IS NOT FOR YOU! You cannot do this after dipping your hands in the trap cash flow! Furthermore, you are most definitely destroying the opportunity to qualify to stand next to a Kingpin.